By 30- you should have one piece of furniture you own..... so the number 2- being 30 list goes.....
When I moved away 3 years ago... I had not one piece of furniture. At 27 years old.. everything I owned my parents either gave to me or bought me.
I worked for a home builder and was able to purchase some nicer model home furniture for super cheap when we would close out a community and the models would be bought. I gathered some great mirrors, wall decor, bathroom decor, and an armoir that has about reached its limit on serving as tv stand.....
I did however buy my first ever full bedroom set- with my boyfriend. a nice one too.. one that qualified us for a large flat screen tv -complimentary ( till he insisted we upgrade...) -THANK YOU, ROOMS TO GO!
When he and I split a year or so ago... I kept all but on piece of the furniture. - one of the 2 dressers he took ( as part of the "divorce... that, the xbox, and the flat screen tv- figures). Either way, this along with an oversized red couch bed I bought on impulse for my guest room ( mind you, doubles as an office, and is ENTIRELY too big for the room...) and bar stools, I can say those are my most "me" purchases... all mine!
At 30- I can atleast outfit a bedroom, have a couch for sitting, oooh and a desk for working, and .... sit .."at the bar" (also doubles as the kitchen counter).=)
Friday, April 27, 2012
Thursday, April 26, 2012
1, One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to, and one to remind you of how far you've come
(Figures they would give me the tough one as the starter of the 30 blogs....)
I for one have many that remind me of how far I've come. Many meaning - just that almost every relationship I have been in reminds me of this. (trust me... there have not been "many" but you know what im getting at)
I, like many women seem to pick the bad boy and fall madly in love only to get my heart stomped as we have read in ALL my previous blogs. So with that- I do look to the future knowing I do not want to stand for that behavior anymore. I wont. I am tougher than nails and guess what- the lies you're spitting - I've heard it all baby.
I am positive there is NOTHING I have not heard- and if your looking for someone to run game on... welll... then.. GAME ON. I dont have time for the pain , the suffering or quite honestly the bullshit.
I have learned my lessons, and learned what I want from a man... from My life partner! (and no where does it say any of the ex boyfriends from 2008 and beyond)
In the same sense, one always has one they can vision "what would it have been like if it had worked out".... this one often can be in the same catagory- showing us where we came from... and how we dont /or shouldnt ever go back... but the wonder is always there. I am convinced, one may always wonder. Even on our happiest days. We cant deny at one time we had love for someone- very deep love.And at one time- the idea of marrying him may have played a role ... or a fantasy.
Years may pass and I may always wonder- BUT- I am confident, I am the true gem in the past AND PRESENT when it comes to that one... and I am also confident, that no matter how much I may wonder- he too will wonder- and WISH he had not made those mistakes so many years before. When he does grow up- a girl like me will be the diamond in the rough he will be desperate to find.
one down.. 29 to go.
I for one have many that remind me of how far I've come. Many meaning - just that almost every relationship I have been in reminds me of this. (trust me... there have not been "many" but you know what im getting at)
I, like many women seem to pick the bad boy and fall madly in love only to get my heart stomped as we have read in ALL my previous blogs. So with that- I do look to the future knowing I do not want to stand for that behavior anymore. I wont. I am tougher than nails and guess what- the lies you're spitting - I've heard it all baby.
I am positive there is NOTHING I have not heard- and if your looking for someone to run game on... welll... then.. GAME ON. I dont have time for the pain , the suffering or quite honestly the bullshit.
I have learned my lessons, and learned what I want from a man... from My life partner! (and no where does it say any of the ex boyfriends from 2008 and beyond)
In the same sense, one always has one they can vision "what would it have been like if it had worked out".... this one often can be in the same catagory- showing us where we came from... and how we dont /or shouldnt ever go back... but the wonder is always there. I am convinced, one may always wonder. Even on our happiest days. We cant deny at one time we had love for someone- very deep love.And at one time- the idea of marrying him may have played a role ... or a fantasy.
Years may pass and I may always wonder- BUT- I am confident, I am the true gem in the past AND PRESENT when it comes to that one... and I am also confident, that no matter how much I may wonder- he too will wonder- and WISH he had not made those mistakes so many years before. When he does grow up- a girl like me will be the diamond in the rough he will be desperate to find.
one down.. 29 to go.
"30 things we should know by 30" & all my thoughts in between...
In 1997, Glamour magazine published a story titled "30 Things Every Woman Should Have and Should Know by the Time She's 30." The list, written by Pamela Redmond Satran, was so popular that women started emailing it around, misattributing it to various female luminaries including Maya Angelou and Hillary Clinton. Noting what a phenomenon it had become, the editors of Glamour created a book around it, featuring essays from (mostly) famous women on each of the items on the list. The book, includes meditations from Katie Couric on work and love, Portia de Rossi on accepting your body, and one from the list's original author, who is also a Huffington Post blogger, on how to live alone.
Because I just turned 30 this month- I'm going to take the next year to touch base on every single one of these things.... with full credit given to Glamour magazine for the list- I choose to elaborate on how it feels to be 30 and to "feel " all of these things.... ( the 30 blogs are for my future self.... and my roommate...with notation that ya know what- your 26 darling, and one day, its ALL GOING TO BE OKAY)
By 30, you should have ...
1. One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come.
2. A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family.
3. Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour.
4. A purse, a suitcase, and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying.
5. A youth you’re content to move beyond.
6. A past juicy enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age.
7. The realization that you are actually going to have an old age -- and some money set aside to help fund it.
8. An email address, a voice mailbox, and a bank account -- all of which nobody has access to but you.
9. A résumé that is not even the slightest bit padded.
10. One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry.
11. A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra.
12. Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it.
13. The belief that you deserve it.
14. A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine, and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don’t get better after 30.
15. A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship, and all those other facets of life that do get better.
By 30, you should know ...
1. How to fall in love without losing yourself.
2. How you feel about having kids.
3. How to quit a job, break up with a man, and confront a friend without ruining the friendship.
4. When to try harder and when to walk away.
5. How to kiss in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn’t like to happen next.
6. The names of the secretary of state, your great-grandmothers, and the best tailor in town.
7. How to live alone, even if you don’t like to.
8. Where to go -- be it your best friend’s kitchen table or a yoga mat -- when your soul needs soothing.
9. That you can’t change the length of your legs, the width of your hips, or the nature of your parents.
10. That your childhood may not have been perfect, but it’s over.
11. What you would and wouldn’t do for money or love.
12. That nobody gets away with smoking, drinking, doing drugs, or not flossing for very long.
13. Who you can trust, who you can’t, and why you shouldn’t take it personally.
14. Not to apologize for something that isn’t your fault.
15. Why they say life begins at 30
on that note- stay tuned.....
Because I just turned 30 this month- I'm going to take the next year to touch base on every single one of these things.... with full credit given to Glamour magazine for the list- I choose to elaborate on how it feels to be 30 and to "feel " all of these things.... ( the 30 blogs are for my future self.... and my roommate...with notation that ya know what- your 26 darling, and one day, its ALL GOING TO BE OKAY)
By 30, you should have ...
1. One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come.
2. A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family.
3. Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour.
4. A purse, a suitcase, and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying.
5. A youth you’re content to move beyond.
6. A past juicy enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age.
7. The realization that you are actually going to have an old age -- and some money set aside to help fund it.
8. An email address, a voice mailbox, and a bank account -- all of which nobody has access to but you.
9. A résumé that is not even the slightest bit padded.
10. One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry.
11. A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra.
12. Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it.
13. The belief that you deserve it.
14. A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine, and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don’t get better after 30.
15. A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship, and all those other facets of life that do get better.
By 30, you should know ...
1. How to fall in love without losing yourself.
2. How you feel about having kids.
3. How to quit a job, break up with a man, and confront a friend without ruining the friendship.
4. When to try harder and when to walk away.
5. How to kiss in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn’t like to happen next.
6. The names of the secretary of state, your great-grandmothers, and the best tailor in town.
7. How to live alone, even if you don’t like to.
8. Where to go -- be it your best friend’s kitchen table or a yoga mat -- when your soul needs soothing.
9. That you can’t change the length of your legs, the width of your hips, or the nature of your parents.
10. That your childhood may not have been perfect, but it’s over.
11. What you would and wouldn’t do for money or love.
12. That nobody gets away with smoking, drinking, doing drugs, or not flossing for very long.
13. Who you can trust, who you can’t, and why you shouldn’t take it personally.
14. Not to apologize for something that isn’t your fault.
15. Why they say life begins at 30
on that note- stay tuned.....
Monday, April 23, 2012
vodka did it.
I'm innocent.
and anything I said a few weeks ago - I likely meant however without vodka starting our conversation- those things would have never been said! I mean sure I have felt rage and love and all those other things but at 3am I clearly was not thinking "clearly". vodka took the reigns. it hopped on our horse and rode us into a place of no return....
then ... vodka did it again! that bitch. why she makes me look so stupid I have no idea. she really is only out for herself! so ... for the record. I didn't text you. vodka - that whore- she did it.
and anything I said a few weeks ago - I likely meant however without vodka starting our conversation- those things would have never been said! I mean sure I have felt rage and love and all those other things but at 3am I clearly was not thinking "clearly". vodka took the reigns. it hopped on our horse and rode us into a place of no return....
then ... vodka did it again! that bitch. why she makes me look so stupid I have no idea. she really is only out for herself! so ... for the record. I didn't text you. vodka - that whore- she did it.
just one word.
vomit.
similar to how I feel when I see posts on Facebook from people I'm growing to have a love hate relationship with.
similar to how I feel when I see posts on Facebook from people I'm growing to have a love hate relationship with.
Friday, April 6, 2012
message to an ex....
your friends always do the talking when they see your ex. i know because i do this for my friends.
i have decided a better method is to just tell them off - do not try to make them see they lost the best thing to EVER happen to them- obviously you think that ... you adore your friend. so just be strait up. a letter will do. if your real ballsy hand deliver it:)
dear ex:
your an idiot. your a user. love abuser and unfortunately my best friends true love. fuck off.
-her best friend.
i have decided a better method is to just tell them off - do not try to make them see they lost the best thing to EVER happen to them- obviously you think that ... you adore your friend. so just be strait up. a letter will do. if your real ballsy hand deliver it:)
dear ex:
your an idiot. your a user. love abuser and unfortunately my best friends true love. fuck off.
-her best friend.
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