Why do people always tell you that if you ignore the man and act as if you don't care after a break up - "he will miss you!"?
My therapist told me this 2 weeks ago. In fact he was sure that if i cut off all contact with Chase for real this time, I would not only get results- him missing me- but i would also get the upper hand back and be able to move on knowing in the end I WON..( because lets be serious- that's what this is really all about) He was so sure of this that he even offered to give me my money back if in time this practice of me totally disappearing from Chase's life didn't prove to be successful.
Well Doctor... I am planning on dropping by your office today for a check. I will accept cash or credit though.
Not only does Chase not miss me,... he seems actually glad i have disappeared. Before he missed me at times of drama in our twisted saga, but now that hes had time apart from me and our addiction he seems to be glad. Not missing me one bit. (he even told me this)
truth is this... sometimes... the dude just wont miss you. sometimes, he's so over you that he wants to be with anyone but you and you moving on wont make him jealous, it'll make him relieved.
One result i can't deny is that Cutting off contact with Chase will ultimately make me get over this crazy epic drama. It just wont be because I won, or because he missed me and saw what a good girl he lost. In the long run I will move on. ( i think Dr. Matt tricked me with his first theory inorder to get this result) And although it does sting a little and piss me off that I wasnt the girl that "he lost" or that he'll always look back on with nostalgia and a smile, I am the girl that he lost ...For good. That's a Sigh of relief...... for both parties.
